A Starting Place

IF YOU WANT A GOOD BLACK MAN YOU HAVE TO BE A GOOD BLACK WOMAN: RACHEL ANN

STOP: Sleeping with men unprotected not only are you playing with death
you don't want to get pregnant by someone who could potentially walk out on not only you but
The child as we'll, and by now we know this is a sure road to hardship, and completely avoidable.


STOP: Looking for Mr. right in all the wrong places, while the club's are great for meeting  new men, remember  he's out looking for a good time, not a wife, so take numbers as an investment of what could be, not for booty calls... Make that clear. If a man knows he can just "Sex you up" on the spot that will be the only purpose you serve for him.,

STOP: Trying to find JAY-Z when you know you're not Beyonc'e  , If you are not well established in you're career or business, be honest  about where you are in life, most men just want to know where you are financially, and what goals you have in place for yourself, and how much of their assistance  you do or do not need, they are measuring if you're worth the investment, you are, and you have to prove it.


STOP: Choosing men based on their looks, a hardworking respectable man who treats you with kindness and only ask that you provide him with the same loving kindness in return, is thee most attractive there is. A crisp dollar bill is very attractive to the touch also, but in the end it's just a dollar . Living a superficial lifestyle has it's perks and tragic endings as we'll.

STOP: Telling yourself you're unattractive, I have to take any man that shows me attention, all Women have something about us that makes us special, focus on that attribute , keep yourself cute on whatever level that is, Men won't make  the effort to appreciate you if they sense a lack of confidence, or low self esteem.

STOP: Using your child as a means of punishment to the father, If you have a man who wants to do his job as a parent, please allow it, Interfering  between a father and child , is wrong, and stupid too, why would you want to purposely take on this kind of overwhelming responsibility by yourself?  In doing so you also become bitter and somewhat hateful, this type of  behavior  keeps Black Men in fear of building relationships with Black Women, and it keeps black women single.

STOP: Looking for a daddy for your children most of the time what you find are, child molester's who tell you how much they love kids and want to be a father, but what they really want is to inflict havoc  on your children, and leave you with the guilt and pain of bringing them into to your home life. Back ground checks are about thirty bucks, your children are priceless. A real man understands why he shouldn't have access to your children and will respect you more for exercising  that right.

STOP: Bringing past relationships into new ones, the ex was a lowlife who treated you poorly, however that's  not the next man's fault, judge each man for their character and how he treats you. Let go of the pain don't project it on a man who loves and treats you well.

STOP: Denying yourself mental guidance, Black women  we have experienced so much from watching, domestic violence take place  in the home and in some cases in our own relationships, being raped, keeping our friends rapes secret, drug addict parents, parents with poor mental health, not much we haven't been through, but now is the time to seek out professionals, who are qualified to provide us with the tools to heal, and move on, so bad behavior doesn't surface as often as it does with us.
Good Men are not attracted to a woman that appears to be unstable or unpredictable, he may find it fresh and exciting  in the beginning , but he won't stick around for very long.

YOU CAN CONTACT YOUR LOCAL HOSPITAL
OR PRIVATE DOCTOR, OR CONTACT THE DEPARTMENT OF MENTAL HEALTH AND HYGIENE.

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